Overprotective Dads Set Dating Rules For Daughters

25 07 2008

There are good reason for the words: “daddy’s little girl.” But the mantra can also become a burden for some grown girls. Many young ladies who have the privilege to have their father around can sometimes find it frustrating when their so-called Dads become nuisance to their relationships.

As parents, there should be a boundary to how nosy fathers can be to grown-up kids’ affair. Full monitoring is perfectly fine when kids are young but at college-age (17-up), I think parents should back off a little bit. Being overprotective or helicopter parents can backfire. Some kids would just rebel and start doing things contrary to what their parents want.

The father of American Idol star, Jordin Sparks (both inset), once said he would kill any guy who tries to date his 18 yrs old daughter. For such statement, I’d say he is an example of a jerky parent. He definately can’t be with his daughter 24/7.

The video below show another example of an over-zealot father setting the 9 rules for dating his daughter

Quote of the day: To a father growing gray [old], nothing is dearer than a daughter  — U.A.





Despite Husband’s Sex Scandal, Silda Spitzer Still Shines

26 05 2008

Despite the pain and embarrassment caused by her husband’s sex tryst, Silda Spitzer came out this past week looking very beautiful and better than most Hollywood actresses. Coincidentally, she appeared on the same NY Sunday Daily News page#3 (hard copy) with American’s most overrated actress, Sarah Jessica Parker of “Sex and the City.” However, Mrs. Spitzer stands out from all the celebrities on that page gallery, including Naomi Campbell.

When the whole world gone Spitzer-bashing, there are good reasons why I did not really go with flow. Except a quick reference to Eliot Spitzer in recent article “Why Ugly Guys Are So Hot.” Some times, you can’t really get between husband and wife no matter what. From distant, it is easy for Andrea Peysers of the world to call Eliot Spitzer all kinds of derogatory names under the sun [scumbag, bum, dog, cheater, liar, terrorist abuser, psychopath, lowlife, etc, etc]. NY Post’s Andrea Peyser, and her media gang from other outlets, ran continuous articles encouraging Silda Spitzer to leave her husband. But only Mrs. Spitzer and her family know better; and it is good that she did not fall for media criticism of her husband. And I wonder how those critics feel now that they see her beaming and looking charming – no stress- as ever.

While there is no moral value in extramarital affair, we should remember that most famous marriages don’t always break because the husbands are cheating. Eleanor Roosevelt and Hilary Clinton survived; even Jacqueline (Jackie) Kennedy would have survived it if John F Kennedy was caught red-handed with Marylyn Monroe. So would Silda Spitzer survive too. The effectiveness of the over-used cliché “media can break you” might have waned in today’s society. In family crisis, people are putting loves first. It takes a strong lady to use media outrage to her own advantage. Silda Spitzer chose to turn the table. Her husband gave heartbreak but she forgave and never let media hypercritics break her family apart.

Above pic: Silda Spitzer, Ali Wentworth & George Stephanopoulos

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“Two important things are to have a genuine interest in people and to be kind to them. Kindness, I’ve discovered, is everything.” —- Isaac Bashevis Singer